Supporting a Grieving Person

Simple Ways to Support Someone Who Is Grieving

When someone we care about loses a loved one, it’s natural to want to help. But it’s also natural to feel unsure — “What do I say?” or “What if I say the wrong thing?”

The truth is, you don’t have to have the perfect words or big gestures. Small, steady acts of kindness can make all the difference for someone in mourning.

Here are a few simple, thoughtful ways you can support a grieving friend, neighbour, or family member — not just in the first days, but in the weeks and months that follow.


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 1. Show Up - Gently

•Attend the visitation or funeral if possible.

•Send a handwritten note or even a text message:
“I’m thinking of you. No need to reply, just know I’m here.”

•Leave a meal on their doorstep with a note, or send a gift card.


•Don’t wait for them to ask for help. Most grieving people won’t.


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 2. Keep Checking In

Grief doesn’t disappear after the funeral — in fact, that’s often when it hits hardest.

•Set a calendar reminder to check in weekly or monthly

•Text: “Just thinking of you today. Want to go for a walk?”

•Acknowledge important days: birthdays, anniversaries, holidays


•Even a short message says: “You’re not forgotten.”


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3. Offer Specific Help

Instead of “Let me know if you need anything,” try:

•“I’m free Thursday — can I drop off groceries?”

•“I’ll be at the store, want me to pick up a few things?”

•“Would it help if I watched the kids for a bit?”


Grief is exhausting — don’t make them think harder.


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 4. Listen Without Fixing

Sometimes the best support is just being present.

• You don’t need to offer advice.

• Avoid phrases like:
“At least they’re in a better place” or “Everything happens for a reason.”

• Instead, say: “That must be so hard. I’m here with you.”


Let silence be okay. Just being beside them is enough.


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 5. Remember Them — Together

Help keep the memory of their loved one alive:

•Share a favourite story or photo

•Donate to a cause in their honour

•Light a candle or plant a tree together


Grief often includes a fear of forgetting. Help them remember.


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 Final Thoughts

Supporting someone who is grieving isn’t about fixing their pain — it’s about being willing to walk beside them in it. Kindness doesn’t need to be loud or perfect. It just needs to be there.

If you or someone you know is grieving and looking for support, we’re here to help — not just at the funeral, but long after.









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